FIRST THINGS FIRST
Here come the tears. It’s okay, sweet darling. It’s going to be okay. This is after “the wave.” You just need to sit with it. It takes time.
DON’T
Don’t do anything with your brain.
Don’t analyze. Don’t compare. Don’t judge. Don’t diagnose. Don’t write unbounded. Don’t try to figure it all out.
Don’t eat. Sorry, the heter snack has to wait.
No pushing. Absolutely no pushing.
DO — CARVE OUT SPACE
That’s all you have to do right now.
Carve out space.
Lighten the schedule.
DO — GET INTO YOUR BODY
Yoga with Adrienne for a broken heart. Shower. Rest. Cry. Lie down for half an hour. Take a gentle walk. Putter. Sway or flow on the mat. Breathe. Use oils. Pick one.
DO — BFF (breathe, find your body, find your feet) WITH MYSELF
Give myself a hug.
Tell myself it’s okay.
BFF WITH OTHERS
Tell the fam where you are.
“Mommy has left the building. I will be back soon. So soon.”
Talk to a friend.
BFF WITH HASHEM
Daven deeply. Not the prescribed type.
Talk to Hashem.
Give it over. To Him.
He is waiting to hear and lighten the load.
Remember,
You are going to be o.k. It always passes. Pick three, and before you know it, you will be back home again…
